We all experience loss in our lives. Sometimes, it is loss of something that is replaceable but the real loss is when you lose something Irreplaceable. In 1988, I lost a dear Aunt and for long the mention of that year triggered many memories especially my first bus-ride on the famous “COME WITH ME” bus service from Kabale to Kampala with her. I attribute some of my humour to her, she laughed at every statement that came out of my mouth and that made feel good!
Just like 1988, 2013 is a year I often wished I could delete from history. In just one year, as a family, we lost two dear members. These were our brothers, husbands, sons, fathers and friends to many. As the Baganda adage goes “nyini muffu yakwata awawunya!” – meaning that much as we are all bereaved, there are people who are more affected than others. Matter of fact, as I grieved, I often took my pain to social media and vented. On one of those days I made a post on social media, I posted my lamentation how Ken’s passing had taken a piece of me. I vividly remember Brenda’s response… “He took half of me!”.
To this day, I meet people who didn’t get the news and breaking it to them takes the wind out of my sail somehow.
Four years later, many things are now in relative perspective. God allows things to come to us only as triggers to manifest His greatness.
That is why His word says,
…And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. – Romans 8:28
During a sermon in the recent past, my pastor was explaining something that I have always known but his example brought it home. He was explaining the “BOUNCE BACK” ability people need for propulsion to greater heights. In his illustration, he told a story how his son wanted to play foot ball but discovered that his ball was deflated. In a moment of innocence, the 2-year-old lad remarked how his ball didn’t have “fresh air” and wasn’t bouncing. In that moment the point had been made for me. It put so many things in perspective.
My sisters Brenda and Alona. I am extremely proud of you and your bounce back ability!
I could only think of my sisters, Alona and Brenda, who have not allowed the external pressures of the situations they face deflate them. They have and still responded like the winners they are. I believe that just like fully inflated balls the pressure on the inside exceeded the pressure on the outside and it is evidenced in their bounce back. This example also made me appreciate 1 John 4:4 better.
You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world.
As you face today and the challenges tomorrow will bring, let us always remember that the pressure on the inside of you is much greater than what you are experiencing and it is a trigger for greater heights.
What are you going through right now? I encourage you to build up your internal pressure to exceed the external pressure and you’ll soar!